Neuro Linguistic Programming Simple Conversations- A Live Case on getting out of stuck feeling.
When you feel stuck in any situation, at work or personal life, you are the one who can change from clutch to accelerator quickly and start driving. A simple yet profound conversation might help you to understand more easily and drive you to use it more quickly.
This article is inspired with the true application of NLP concepts happened in my office recent evenings.
Here you go….
I was waiting for one of my new colleague to come and meet. He did mention to me over the call that things are not in good shape at his personal level as his wife had to be hospitalized for illness (Severity-Medium and Curable).
He came and we started chatting. While having not so firm handshake and a low tonality in his greetings, he started talking (shallow breathing) about things which are not in good shape.
Everyone in life has time where things are not in good shape, someone in family not well, someone in office not feeling well, we feel alone, we feel as if what are we doing? How will we do it? Why me? Why it so difficult?
We all are humans and we have our own share of challenges.
At times, we need someone to hear and I have learned one thing in my life to always have ears like Ganesha – Big and large. I was there with all my heart to listen to him.
He started talking: Let me make you understand all problems and started telling me the challenges. While I was listening to him quietly with reflective listening, I noticed in between his talks and at the end, he repeatedly mentioned that I feel like life is clutched , you know like completely clutched, I don’t know how to overcome it. Life is like very dirty black mud all over. It feels very bad.
We NLP Practitioners (New Code and Classic) have been trained on metaphors and creating a change quickly using simple methods (Kinesthetic Perceptual Position).
I took a breathe the way he took, nodded and said I understand you. And subtly asked him, let’s do one thing….. Could you locate the mud in front?
He located the dirt black mud by using his hands and making a circle surrounded by mud.
I Said: Ok…Now….Remove the mud in your own pace from surrounding…….. And as you do that you start seeing something.
He said: Seeing…??..……K…I am doing that….I see something……..I see some water while I am removing this.
I Said: ok, remove more and see that clear visible water all around.
He Said: Ohk…
And he kept removing the mud…and then said again ………I can see clear water surrounded. That mud is going
I asked: Ohk..Let that mud completely go and see the clear water. Do you see that?
He Said: Yeah, I do……Completely clear water and myself actually.
I said: k…, and by seeing your own self there, how does it feels like?
He said: It feels clear; confident (The moment he said that, a shift happened in his body)
I said: Ohk , Now as he is clear and confident , how does he look like?
He Said: He looks smart, like this (And again moved his body more, shoulders, neck, back, hands and legs had a movement)
I said : ohk, Great…….as you keep observing and listening unconsciously to me……….And as we know that in any of the car, the clutch can be removed by quickly going to the accelerator in few seconds, would you also ask him to press the accelerator to remove him from the clutch.
He Said: Hmm….k… ….Accelerator…..Yeah….Can do that…….He is using accelerator now
I said: Ohk, Can you increase the speed a bit and know what happens?
He Said : Yeah, Increasing ..Going to 30-40
I said: Ohk, Let’s know what happens when you increase more,
He said: Yeah, It feels good at 60..Moving to 70…Moving to 80…Yeah this is much better…I’ll like to drive safe.
I said: Ohk, so you can drive well from now so naturally. Brilliant!
Remember you are your own driver, in your life, whenever you want to remove your clutch, use your accelerator quickly.
And in few minutes, there was a shift in his body, language and focus. Smilingly he said, this is so simple and new for me, I would like to use it.
And he mentioned: So Ridhima was it me who was actually creating all that inside my head?
I smiled and said let’s have coffee with some laddoo in my office.
Change can occur in a while by using these simple techniques. Keep using your own accelerator! It’s simple yet profound!
Whenever you feel stuck, let’s meet over a coffee or over call and remove it quickly!