Disassociate Using Positions
I’m sure you must have read through in my last article about association and disassociation.
In case you missed, no worries, here is the link for you –
After reading, you must have also got a gist of what specifically you associate with and what you would like to disassociate with.
Life can be simple if we can quickly disassociate with things which we don’t want and associate with things which we want.
The most important and pertinent question I have been asked by people multiple times “How to quickly disassociate?”
The moment you associate with anything which is not useful for my soul/body/mind, what happens inside your body then? What happens to your thought then? What happens to your process of thinking then? Where does your focus shift?
The generalised answers to the above questions would be towards negative, body may become tight, dull or cold; or a specific shift in your body and a specific shift inside the brain, a specific shift in the way you would talk inside and outside. All these changes leading mostly towards in negative frequency of the brain and the brain attracts more negative patterns and the circle continues to become bigger and bigger.
Now the part is to break this circle at the first point itself. What is the first point technically?
The point where you felt/see/hear the uncomfortable feeling inside and you do not want that state.
And remember, just before that everything was fine.
Example: You heard someone criticizing you and you felt an uncomfortable feeling.
(Auditory changing the kinesthetic).
Now if you keep it as long as with you, it is going to be more and more associated with you until you disassociate with it.
How to disassociate here:
The same example: You heard someone criticizing you and you felt an uncomfortable feeling.
STEP 1: Self-Awareness- Become aware where do you feel it?
Step 2: Touch that part
Step 3: Say Thanks for coming
Step 4: Shrug that part off in the place/position 1
Step 5: Quickly Jump to another position. Say, Position 2 (in NLP, we work on PERCEPTUAL POSITION 3 for self)
Step 6: From Position 2 (Second Self without the feeling): Look at position 1 (Self with that feeling)
Step 7: Notice/see/hear – How does position 1 look like and how does position 1 sound like
Step 8: Notice Immediately – The feeling is not with you now, its gone and the feeling is with Position 1.
So Now what you did is only disassociating with the feelings by simply shrugging it off and changing your position and shifting your focus to another acuity (in this case from Kinesthetic to Visual and the auditory)
The next step what you can learn is “How can I use this negative feeling to learn from my unconscious and can pass it on to my conscious to apply too.”
Practice this and then we take you to the next step utilising this negative feeling as feedback in the next article.